One more thing I'm apparently doing wrong

Via Online Dating Magazine, which in turn I reached via Red Herring.

This study examined the impact of the Internet on personal and sexual safety for women meeting men through online ads.... Thirty percent of respondents engaged in sexual activity on their first encounter. Seventy-seven percent of respondents who met an online partner did not use condoms for their first sexual encounter.

This hasn't been my experience, but there you go.